Staying strong during a breakup doesn’t mean acting totally normal or suppressing pain. Instead, it’s about feeling your feelings in a healthy way and moving toward healing.
Give yourself time and space to breathe, but don’t isolate yourself or wallow in pity constantly. Trying out new coping habits and staying in touch with friends will help.
Don’t constantly check your ex’s social media, and, if you find yourself thinking about them, change the channel in your brain. Instead, try and establish a new normal.
Don’t feel ashamed for telling people that you’re having a rough go of it, and consider talking to a professional.
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Although a painful breakup may cause you to think life as you know it is over, the world doesn’t stop because your relationship ended. You’ll need to figure out how to carry on your daily activities — including work — even when your heart feels broken.
Being mentally strong when you’re going through a breakup isn’t about suppressing your pain or acting like you don’t care.
Instead, it’s about taking the steps you need to heal your broken heart so you can feel better again. Here’s how to stay mentally strong when you’re going through a breakup:
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Allow yourself to grieve
The end of a relationship can create a giant emotional wound. And grief is the process that will heal that wound.
Allow yourself to feel sad about what you lost. You may grieve over everything from those Friday night dates you used to have together to the future you’d already planned out in your mind.
Sadness, anger, hurt, embarrassment, anxiety, and disappointment are just a few of the emotions that might get stirred up. Allow yourself to experience all of these emotions, even when they’re uncomfortable.
Practice healthy coping skills
You may be tempted to do anything you can to escape your emotions. Whether you want to numb the pain with food and alcohol or you try to distract yourself from feeling bad by constantly scrolling through your smartphone, unhealthy coping skills only lead to long-term pain.
Practice healthy ways to deal with uncomfortable emotions. Experiment with a variety of coping skills to discover what works for you — go for a walk, call a friend, write in a journal, practice meditation, or listen to music.
Whatever you do, make sure you do things that help you go through painful emotions without creating more long-term problems for yourself. Eating comfort food because you’re sad, drinking because you’re anxious, or texting an ex who isn’t good for you because you’re lonely might make you feel better for a minute, but they’ll introduce new problems into your life.
Don’t host a pity party
While feeling sad can help you honor what you lost, self-pity is different. This can take the form of exaggeratedly negative thoughts like, “I’ll never be happy again” or “My life is ruined forever.”
When you start making catastrophic predictions or exaggerating your misfortune, catch yourself. Remind yourself that although …read more
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