DEAR HARRIETTE: I went years without speaking to someone who told a cruel lie about me.
That lie affected my friendships and even my family. It was so bad and so hurtful that part of me never recovered.
It was hard to believe that someone I cared a lot about would intentionally lie about me to a host of other people. They recently reached out to me to apologize privately for the lie that they told.
The disrespect was public, so I think the apology should be public, too.
In order for me to move forward, I want a detailed public retraction of the lie. Is this a reasonable request?
DEAR PUBLIC APOLOGY: Start by meeting with this person and listening to what they have to say.
Harriette Cole: Because I’m single, they treat me unfairly
Harriette Cole: Should I fly to my daughter’s town to investigate her black eye?
Harriette Cole: My new neighbors are rude about my fashion sense
Harriette Cole: He refuses to change his look when he meets my parents
Harriette Cole: She talked about me on her podcast, and I am not happy about it
Find out why they chose to say those hurtful, untrue things in the first place. Explain the repercussions of their lie and how negatively it impacted your life.
Thank the person for coming to you now with this apology. Then, make it clear that the private acknowledgment is not enough. Ask for the person to state the apology in detail in a public forum. Today that could be social media, a traditional news outlet or a community organization. Make it clear what you want, and try to get this person to agree.
If you are worried about how forthcoming the person ultimately will be, bring a witness with you to the in-person meeting. You can also state that you want to record the meeting before it begins, but remember that in some states it is illegal to record a phone conversation without consent.
DEAR HARRIETTE: A friend of mine is going through a hard time. Her world has basically fallen apart.
She is in the middle of a bad breakup and is having a lot of family issues. She moved recently, and it seems like everybody is bickering.
I loaned her money back in early March. Although she is having a hard time, I am not rich, and I need the money back ASAP.
I don’t want to be insensitive. How should I go about asking for my money back?
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